Transitioning Well

What does a Leader In Transition need to be mindful of?

This was inspired by a recent coaching session covering a topic that relates to many of my readers, so I hope you discover some insights to support you in times of transition. Many thanks to David Rock for teaching me and developing the Neuroleadership Institute of which I’m grateful to be a member.

I’m coaching a business owner who now owns 2 businesses. She needs to be very aware that besides the changes she faces personally – there are others in her world who face changes(and perhaps challenges) because of her decisions.

A leader in transition needs to remember…

1. Your team and customers (all the people who’ve looked up to you) need to know that you care about them. This may seem obvious – but for many people, change brings great uncertainty and they’ll question within themselves everything they’ve believed thus far.

People don’t care how much you know until they know how much you care. John Maxwell

The team my client is leaving (in a managers capable hands) need to know that she cares. They need to feel important. She can move on because she taught them well.

2. They need a sense of certainty. There’s nothing certain in this world really (except death and taxes apparently) but she can give them a sense of certainty by sharing any relevant information – facts such as  timing, phone numbers to call etc. “If this happens, then you do this, and if you need support – call me – or relevant person”. Systems/procedures are essential.

3. They need to be given the opportunity to ask questions, know exactly what their roles are, what the expectations on them will be, and how much freedom they have in making decisions and taking action.

The leader needs to know that without this understanding, some staff will take less action (and possibly let the team down) because they don’t want to “step on any toes”, while others may take more action, or more responsibility than appropriate.

4. The individuals in the team need a sense of fairness – yes we all know life isn’t fair but since we know the brain craves fairness, leaders need to do what they can do to act fairly and support those involved, and keep the relationship sweet.

Gone are the days of making changes in businesses and  organisations and expecting people to “get over it” if they don’t like it. With all we know about the brain and effective communications, we can overcome most of the hurdles that present themselves. And besides the caring factor – who can afford to lose good people? Every business I know could handle more customers and wants to keep those they have and too often I hear leaders crying out for staff saying “it’s hard to get good people.”

Change brings uncertainty and can increase stress significantly – manage it well and your people will be grateful and will transition smoothly with you.

The new team which my client is building will have similar needs – which will be met through honesty and clear communication.

Note: Communications is not just what you say to them, it’s about listening.

Please add your comments below, check out the Leaders & Teams page or contact me to discuss it further!

Don’t settle for second best in your life and organisation!!

Cheering you on, Kerrie

A purposeful life isn’t easy… but…

What happens when you set a goal/make a commitment?

1. You encounter resistance – it’s like there’s a test to see how serious you are about creating positive change. All kinds of things occur – you suddenly get busier than ever, and you think maybe it’s not the time for this after all. You may find that you suddenly don’t have the cash reserves you thought you did, and the investment you were planning for your goals seems needed elsewhere. You get overwhelmed, and it’s hard to make a decision – that you’ve already made, but you start questioning and losing confidence.

2. You may feel super-enthused about embarking on this journey, which can be incredibly energising, but can lull you into a false sense of it all ‘just happening anyway’ which can lessen your resolve or focus on your commitment.

3. Your commitment to yourself and your goals will be tested. You discover amazing opportunities coming your way, which seem to seem to be miraculous. These interesting occurrences are useful to note, as you’ll be tempted at times to ‘slack off’ and just see what happens, lose the focus on the discipline that you previously wanted, and let go of your opportunities for accountability, which is a great benefit to achieving your purpose. Or you could be totally discouraged when it feels and looks like everything is falling apart! Hang in there!

What does true commitment look like? It’s when you don’t turn back, even if you could; it’s actually positioning yourself so you can’t turn back – put support structures in place to keep you forward focused. There have been times I’ve committed myself to huge goals, clear visions that scare me in their expansiveness, and the natural tendency is to draw back, make a little space for procrastination, an excuse for failure – just in case.

I’ve found myself committed to endeavours that I have an enormous sense of purpose about, and it seems that the more important the goal, the more distractions will come to ‘let me off the hook’. This is when it’s time to be so clear that I can do what I say I will do, that I will continue to dream big, that I will allow others to support me, challenge me and cheer me on, and that I will become all that I’m capable of becoming. It’s when I need to remember quotes like the following – (the first is from W.H. Murray, in 1951 regarding an Everest Expedition)

“But when I said that nothing had been done I erred in one important matter. We had definitely committed ourselves and were halfway out of our ruts. We had put down our passage money–booked a sailing to Bombay. This may sound too simple, but is great in consequence. Until one is committed, there is hesitancy, the chance to draw back, always ineffectiveness. Concerning all acts of initiative (and creation), there is one elementary truth the ignorance of which kills countless ideas and splendid plans: that the moment one definitely commits oneself, the providence moves too. A whole stream of events issues from the decision, raising in one’s favor all manner of unforeseen incidents, meetings and material assistance, which no man could have dreamt would have come his way. I learned a deep respect for one of Goethe’s couplets: Whatever you can do or dream you can, begin it. Boldness has genius, power and magic in it!”

And another that helps me just get on with it –

“Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous? Actually, who are you not to be? You are a child of God. Your playing small does not serve the world. There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won’t feel insecure around you. We are all meant to shine, as children do. We were born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us. It’s not just in some of us; it’s in everyone. And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others.” Marianne Williamson/Nelson Mandela

A purposeful life is not easy, but it seems far easier when we are fully committed, not wrestling with whether something is possible or not – just absolutely committed and believing that all things are possible; that there is always a solution to be found.

Confidence Coaching Program

Just in case you’d like a little boost in your clarity and confidence :-)

Following the great outcomes and feedback from the pilot program of Success With Confidence coaching program, I’m hosting it again, starting with an exciting free introductory call on Monday – it’s growing by word of mouth, but I wanted to be sure you knew.

Growing in confidence has been the most significant aspect of my business journey – with amazing personal impacts along the way too. My relationships are strong and authentic; I say yes to opportunities and challenges that would have scared me in the past, and take the stage with gratitude to speak from the heart.

This is a stark contrast to my days of being so intimidated by people (even the loveliest ones!) that I couldn’t speak to more than one person at a time. Even 5 years ago I could never speak my mind for fear of rejection.

Leadership Coaching has had an amazing impact on all areas of my own life and if you’ve known me long, you’ve seen it, and you know it’s had similar impacts on my clients over the past 6 years.

If you’re keen to find out more about the low-cost, high-impact program we’ll be starting soon, let me know by registering. To register Click Here

Join us for the call, and there’s no obligation to spend a cent or commit to any goals – just let your curiosity and open-mindedness bring you, and you can explore your own personal ideas and possibilities.

Choose the time that suits you – Monday 22 August at 1pm OR 7.30pm, OR Thursday 25 August at 7.30pm (NSW time)

You’ll be calling a landline number to join us on a conference call (which I’ll email to you when you register). You’ll connect with others from across Australia (and beyond) who are on a similar inspiring journey. You’ll be in a safe space to think about, write down, and if you wish, share your goals, so click here http://www.createthelifeclub.com/teleclass to register and get the call details.

Let’s see your Success increase due to a new level of Confidence and Clarity!

Cheering you on,
Kerrie

PS. Here’s what Rowena (Business Manager and artist) has to say…
Taking part in the Success With Confidence coaching program with Kerrie was not only beneficial for my career goals, but allowed me to put some perspective in my family life as well. Kerrie’s ‘what else’ way of making you think helps to strive for more in-depth answers and helps in creating a distinct path to reaching your goals. I highly recommend working with Kerrie!

Inspiring Coaching Conversations today…

Gosh I’m inspired. I’ve had several very profound conversations today that have really put a bounce in my step and I feel like I’m breathing with bigger lungs, if that makes sense. This is really great, because I’ve had a virus that’s really knocked my energy out of me for far too long, and it’s the love of life that gets me out of bed, not physical energy…

So – the bounce back conversations…

Firstly, one of my clients had a few very nice insights that will change her outcomes significantly; one being the realisation that doing the hard things first really works for her and she just needs to refocus on that, which eliminates procrastination, cutting out stress, unproductive pressure and an incomplete work day/week. Another was the insight that while she’s been focused on how someone else in her world wasn’t taking responsibility, she’s missed seeing the ways that she can take responsibility, for her actions and attitudes. Beautiful.

Another lady who came for her 3rd session is already so transformed she’s beside herself with excitement. It’s such a stunning shift I am SO moved. She’s realised that she was losing hours (literally half a day) everyday just looking for things, as she was living in such clutter, and her external world was merely a reflection of her internal world. Complete chaos. In the past 10 days since session 2, she hasn’t wasted ANY time looking for glasses, keys, wallet or paperwork, because her thinking is now clear. I love this!

The changes here have occurred not just because these women are on a coaching journey with me, but because they came to me really ready for change, and with willingness to be completely honest, not just with me, but with themselves. It actually takes courage, as it’s not easy to truly assess the current situation and it’s impacts when it’s not nice – but on the other side of those insights are the gems that unfold into enormous creativity and freedom to pursue your dreams – and be your true, fabulous self.  As my dear friend Dr Ray Andrews says “You can’t leave where you’re at, until you OWN where you’re at.” Oh so true.

Where are you at my friend? What’s great, what’s not, and what are you ready to leave behind. It’s one thing to have an inspiring goal, but you often have to look at what you’ve been dragging around with you that you can let go of. This woman who’s leaving the chaos behind is actually leaving behind her excuses and negativity. It’s all too easy to say “this is just how I am/have always been…” but when you’re really ready for change, you’ll amaze yourself. If you don’t believe me, call me and let’s talk about what’s possible. (secret… what’s possible is actually ANYTHING… which is another insight, and another whole conversation – at least!)

Cheering you on,

Kerrie

PS. Another exciting conversation happened serendipitously as I saw one of my first coaching clients in a cafe downtown, so we lunched and I heard about his project in Africa that he’s developing. Very exciting stuff – and if you know me well, you know Africa has captured my heart and I’m increasing my support of many difference-makers there in the coming days to give orphans, abducted child-soldiers and oppressed women a chance to transform their lives and communities.

Self Honesty and Progress

I’m in awe this week, as I consider the four new clients I’ve just started coaching. I’ve never encountered such incredible self honesty and self awareness at the very start of a personal/leadership coaching program. It often takes a while to grow…

These people, from various walks of life, all over regional Australia, two men and two women, have set themselves the most amazing, challenging personal goals. And I mean really personal, personal goals. I love a really raw, honest conversation with a trusted friend and mentor, but I certainly wasn’t up for this kind of conversation when I started coaching. The level of trust these people have in me and the coaching process is amazing and I’m, again, in awe. The outcomes these people will have will be nothing short of astounding – I know they will surprise themselves with the insights they discover along the way.

I hope I can convey my point without sharing any specifics. Think of a time when you may have been really honest with yourself or someone else, facing something that you previously had not faced before – you know, those habits or failings that you want to overcome, but don’t want to look at – it seems easier under the carpet. The thing is, as one of my dear friends, a physcologist and lecturer says “You can’t leave where you’re at, until you own where you’re at”. It’s so true. In looking at what’s really there, your determination to move forward increases, as well as your clarity about how to. It takes your discomfort with the issue to the level that you’re ready to move on, to create a new reality, where that habit or ineffectiveness is no longer.

What are you settling for? Unsettle yourself by looking at what areas you want to change, and take responsibility for your actions and inactions. Create a clear, inspiring picture of the outcome you want, and then clear plans to get you there.

I’ve noticed that I can settle (my husband might laugh, he thinks I’m always throwing myself out of the comfort zone) for some goals not being achieved because I have achieved a lot of others, and I’m really grateful for so much in my life. I’ve realised lately that it’s silly to settle because of that – and it’s not really about that – I  can put things in a “too-hard basket” too!

…Until I’ve seen it – then I’m compelled to throw myself out of the comfort zone, (again) and get fully honest about the situation and any limited thinking I’ve applied – and move on!

Hope my ponderings are useful…  Let’s get honest and keep growing!

Cheering you on,

Kerrie

It's time to celebrate!

You might think that I’m getting in early for Christmas, or my birthday – which is now less than two weeks away, but no!  Anytime is actually great for celebrating, and it’s something I do with coaching clients on a regular basis.

The kind of celebrating is one you can do alone or with friends, but a piece of paper is a really great help either way.

Here’s what it looks like… list all of your recent achievements; consider all the little things you’ve done that you felt proud of, even for a moment.

1. Planted my own rocket and basil

2. Tidied my desktop and keep files managed

3. Helped a client gain an ROI of 80% after the second week of coaching!

4. Inspired myself writing out my presentation for Friday

5. Blogged for 100 consecutive Days – inspired self and others, and learned to insert photos!

6. Studied Theoretical Foundations of Coaching with David Rock

This is a simple example list, and I’m going to do a more comprehensive one over the next few days, but I just wanted to share an example. It’s too easy to look at what’s not yet been completed, or see skills that are lacking, but that kind of thinking doesn’t tend to move you forward.

When you look at what you’ve accomplished, and what you’ve learned, you can then ask yourself – so what does this mean for me? Now what can I tackle that I once thought was too hard or too scary?

bungyWhen I was in New Zealand a few years ago, I stood at the top of a water slide called “the coffin” because once you let go of the top, you were plunged into absolute darkness, speeding down (and around in unexpected directions). My brother-in-law said to me “this is the scariest one” and I stood waiting for the green light and realised that I felt scared.  It was so easy to take on what he said, which was just how that slide was known.  My thought “I’m actually a bit scared” was followed by “What! You just did a bungy-jump last week!” and all of a sudden the anxiety was gone, replaced by confidence and anticipation.  A scary idea?  Bring it on, I’ve tackled some of those before – and come out the other side with a great sense of accomplishment and valuable learning.

What are you going to celebrate?  And what can you then do as a result of seeing how amazing you are?

Cheering you on,

Love Kerrie

 

 

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