Influence, Invisibility Cloaks, and AI: Insights from Dr. Vanessa Bohns
G’day, friends! 🌟 Wow!!! Let me tell you about a podcast episode that’s had me buzzing for days. I recently edited an absolutely fascinating interview for the Connect With Confidence podcast, where Kerrie Phipps conversed with the incredible Dr. Vanessa Bohns, author of You Have More Influence Than You Think. Trust me, after you have heard about influence, invisibility cloaks and AI, it will make you rethink how you show up in the world. Heard enough? Scroll to the bottom of the page and start listening now.
A Personal Aha Moment: The Invisibility Cloak
Picture this: I’m sitting at my desk, steaming French press coffee to one side, editing the episode when Dr. Bohns starts talking about the “Invisibility Cloak Illusion.” It hit me like a bolt of lightning from Harry Potters wand! 💡 You know those days when you feel invisible, like nobody notices you? Turns out, that’s so not true.
Dr. Vanessa Bohns explains that we often underestimate how much people notice us in our daily lives. While we think we’re flying under the radar, others are quietly noticing our actions. Here’s the kicker: those little things we do – helping a colleague, smiling at a stranger – can leave a bigger impression than we realise.
So, if you’re cringing about that awkward thing you said in a meeting or fretting over a coffee stain on your shirt, relax. Most people are too busy living their own lives to notice, and those who do might even find you inspiring!
The Quiet Power of Influence
Dr. Bohns shares fascinating research about influence, revealing that we’re all capable of creating ripple effects with even the smallest actions. One story stuck with me: her days in New York City collecting survey data on train stations. Imagine asking strangers to stop and answer questions at a train station when all they want to do is get to where they are going! 😅
What she discovered is surprising – most people are more willing to help than we think. This is linked to what’s called the “liking gap” which is our tendency to underestimate how much others actually like or appreciate us. It’s a reminder that even when we’re feeling hesitant, our kindness and confidence can make a difference.
Leadership Lessons: Listening Is a Superpower
Leadership isn’t about having all the answers – it’s about connection. Dr. Bohns offers a gold nugget of advice for leaders: listen first.
When you step into a leadership role, the temptation to prove yourself can be overwhelming. But by listening to your team, you create space for collaboration and creativity. It’s like magic; people feel valued, and the ideas start flowing. Whether it’s at work, with friends, or even leading a hiking group, this is a game-changing approach.
The Spotlight Effect and the Art of Saying No
Here’s one that brought a knowing smile to my face, the Spotlight Effect. We all think everyone’s watching us and noticing every little flaw. Newsflash – they’re not! 😂 People are so busy worrying about themselves that they barely notice your bad hair day or that time you tripped on your own feet.
And then there’s the dreaded word: no. Whether it’s turning down an invitation or setting boundaries at work, it’s never easy. Dr. Bohns gives practical tips on how to say no with confidence and grace. Pro tip: it’s all about clear, kind communication.
Why You Should Listen
Dr. Bohns’ work reminds us that we have more influence than we think, hmmm, where have I heard that before? Whether it’s through leadership, small acts of kindness, or simply being present, we all have the power to leave a positive mark on the world.
So, grab your favorite drink, find a comfy spot, and tune into the Connect With Confidence podcast. You’ll laugh, learn, and maybe even see yourself in a new light.
Until next time, keep being your brilliant self. Remember – blue skies ahead, my friends! 🌈✨
